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It’s National Orgasm Month

21 Oct
National Orgasm MonthFew would argue that the orgasm is the ultimate gratification. It’s exhilarating, euphoric and unlike anything of this earth. The actual experience varies from person to person. However, with patience and an open mind, nearly everyone is capable of achieving orgasm. Read on for some tips to help you get orgasm-fit!

Practice breathing techniques. The body often tenses up right before climax, constraining oxygen. When oxygen is reduced, blood flow weakens. As a result, the orgasm is shortened or never achieved. By performing regular breathing exercises, you can train yourself to breathe properly at all times. This will result in higher oxygen saturation; improved blood flow; and stronger, longer, more frequent orgasms.

Work your PC muscles. The pelvic floor muscles automatically convulse during orgasm. By flexing them during sex, you can prolong the pleasurable contractions and, in some cases, multiply the fun. Strengthen your PC muscles with a kegel exerciser suitable to your ability level—Kegel Balls, Pleasure Pearls or Ben-Wa Balls.

Follow a Mediterranean-style diet. Studies have shown that a diet high in fruits, vegetables, nuts, whole grains, olive oil and fish, and low in red meat, can have a positive effect on sexual function, including one’s ability to orgasm. There are a variety of sexually nutritious recipes available in “The New Intercourses: An Aphrodisiac Cookbook.

Explore your body. How can you expect anyone else to please you if you can’t please yourself? Take time out to get to know your body. Become acquainted with your own anatomy and what feels good. Try stimulating the various areas around the genitals, including the clitoris, G-spot and vulva. For self-pleasuring tips and techniques, check out the masturbation guide, “Tickle Your Fancy.”


  • The average female orgasm can last anywhere from six to ten seconds. Some women even experience a 20-second orgasm.
  • According to researchers, it’s possible for some women to orgasm as many as 100 times per hour.
  • The average woman needs about 20 minutes of arousal time before her clitoris is sensitive enough to respond to stimulation and begin building toward climax. (Apply a dab of Pure Satisfaction® to enhance sensitivity).
  • The most likely time for a woman to experience sexual pleasure is during her menstrual period. This is due to the increase in blood circulation around the groin area.
  • Orgasms have been shown to curb the appetite; improve brain function, fat metabolism, and the immune and cardiovascular systems; and promote healthy skin.

“How can I describe to you, a man, what it feels like to a woman? Think of a light switch with a rheostat control. As you begin to turn it on, the bulb begins to get bright, then brighter, and brighter and finally in a blinding flash is fully lit. It is so good.” – Marilyn Monroe

Finding Your Big O

18 Jan

Ahhh… the orgasm!

Who doesn’t love the toe curling, body convulsing, extreme ecstasy of an intense climax?

Unfortunately, female orgasms can be hard to come by. But ladies, don’t despair. First of all, if you do have a hard time climaxing, know that you are not alone. According to Planned Parenthood, one in three women have trouble reaching orgasm when having sex, and as many as 80% of women have difficulty climaxing from vaginal intercourse alone. Those are staggering statistics. Especially considering that 90% of men orgasm every time they have vaginal intercourse.

Second of all, just because you may have a hard time reaching orgasm while making love doesn’t mean you’ll have a hard time reaching orgasm in all situations.

Just like women come in all different shapes, sizes and colors, so too, do their sexual desires, turn-ons and hot spots. While some women are able to orgasm solely from intercourse, many others need clitoral stimulation to reach the “Big O.” Some women need other stimulants, like touching and kissing. Others are able to climax when vibrators are introduced and used during lovemaking. It’s impossible to list all the different scenarios for women to reach orgasm, but here are three ideas our Passion Parties experts recommend:

Relax. For many women, orgasms are hard to reach because they cannot let go. It’s not a secret that women are often stereotyped as over-analyzers, and if you’ve ever been accused of this, take note: Over-analyzing can inhibit your ability to climax. If you are too busy thinking about what you look like or how long it’s taking, you are creating a mental roadblock on your journey to the Big O.

Start the night with a glass of wine, chamomile tea or whatever yummy beverage helps you to relax. Once you and your mate are playing, if a negative or worrisome thought creeps in your mind, shake it off and focus on something you really like in the moment. Maybe you like the way your partner’s tongue feels against your smooth skin, maybe you like your lover’s hot breath on your inner thigh, or maybe you’re enjoying the feeling of fullness as you’re penetrated. Focus your thoughts and energy on that, and get lost in it.

Get on top. There are certain sex positions that give more control to your partner (think missionary and doggie-style), and there are certain positions that give more control to you, such as being on top. When you’re on top, you’ll be able to control the angle, depth, speed and thrust intensity. Additional bonus: If you want clitoral stimulation, you are in the perfect position.
Teach by example. Your orgasm might simply be thwarted due to your partner not knowing what you want or like. If this is the case, there is an easy and sexy solution: Show your mate what you like. Using your fingers or a toy, show your lover exactly how you like it — how fast, how deep, how intense. After you’ve shown by example, ask your partner to put his or her fingers on top of yours or around yours (if using a toy) so your playmate can not only see how you like it, but he or she can also feel and eventually master what you like.

Finding your orgasm might take time and patience, and while that can be frustrating, try to remember you’re not alone… and only practice makes perfect.

Three Sexual Myths You Should Stop Believing Now

17 Jan



Sexual myths exist in just about every culture and country in the world. Some of these misconceptions have perpetuated for hundreds, or even thousands, of years. There are so many that it can be difficult to differentiate between fact and fiction.

Here, our Passion Parties experts dispel three common sexual myths of the 21st Century.

1. There is no such thing as a G-spot.
While there’s still scientific debate over what exactly the G-spot is, its presence has been widely accepted.  What we know for certain is that the G-spot is a fleshy section located one to three inches inside of the vagina on the front wall, and its exact placement may move over time.

Formally known as the Gräfenberg Spot, this source of incredible pleasure was named after Dr. Ernst Gräfenberg. He was the first modern physician to substantiate its significance in female sexual pleasure.

Scientists have yet to confirm whether the G-spot is a group of glands and ducts clustered around the urethra, or the point at which the nerves of the clitoris intersect with vaginal tissue on their way to the spinal column. Some even believe that the G-spot is a female prostate gland because, when stimulated, it may provoke an orgasmic ejaculation – a release of clear fluid through the urethra. Not all women ejaculate when experiencing a G-spot orgasm. But, if you do, don’t worry.  The fluid will not stain the sheets.

Tip for locating your G-spot:
Lie comfortably on your back and insert a finger or two, with your palm up toward the ceiling. Make the “come hither” motion with your finger(s). The G-spot tends to swell when massaged, much like the erectile tissue of a penis. Our experts recommend that you become aroused prior to the search, as the G-spot area will be easier to locate.

As you explore the inside of your vagina, you’ll notice that the walls feel much like the inside of the cheeks of your mouth.  Once you feel a fleshy area that’s texture resembles the roof of your mouth, but rougher, you’ve discovered your G-spot. (Congratulations!)

Don’t worry if your first try is unsuccessful. This is a search worth much dedication. Keep in mind, too, that you may encounter a feeling that you have to urinate. This is quite common, and actually a good sign that you’re on your way to achieving G-spot orgasm.  In fact, that sensation can be the prequel to female ejaculation. Our experts recommend that you use the restroom prior to G-spot play, so that you relieve any anxiety that would arise when you have that urination sensation.

You may even want to ask your partner to help you locate your G-spot. Or, you may prefer to go it alone.  Both options are equally valid; however, whether alone or with a significant other, enhancing your awareness of the G-spot can be assisted with the right sensual toys and Passion Parties’ exclusive RomantaTherapy® G-Spot Crème.  The unique product contains rich ingredients that interact with your G-spot and promote a higher awareness of sexual sensitivity, enabling greater erotic pleasure.

If you would like to maximize your G-spot experience further, incorporate one of Passion Parties’ many G-spot vibrators, such as the new Genie. Its specially curved tip is designed to target “that” spot.

2. Only homosexual males enjoy anal play.
The mind-blowing orgasm that can result from a prostate massage does not discriminate. Many men enjoy this type of pleasure, regardless of race, age or sexual orientation. Unfortunately, it’s still taboo in some cultures. But, it’s beginning to change, as more men are opening up to a whole new world of bliss.

Also referred to as the “He-spot,” the prostate gland is a small gland, about the size and shape of a quail’s egg.  Nestled in the male pubic bone and surrounded by the pelvic muscles, the prostate gland responds to pressure applied through the rectum.  When massaged correctly, it can generate amazing orgasms.

What many don’t know is that prostate massage has been used for centuries, and for two purposes: intense sexual pleasure, and the promotion of health in the prostate gland.

Some men experience crashing orgasms when their prostate gland is stimulated, while others do not. Some men don’t enjoy the sensation at all, while others could take it or leave it. If you are unsure about your lover’s feelings toward this type of sensation, try it!  (Worst case scenario: He does not like it, and you never try it again.)  Just be sure to discuss it with him first, and get his go-ahead.

Passion Parties offers many prostate massage toys, which can assist you or your partner in stimulating the He-spot, including our oldie, but goodie Playful Plug – especially designed for the first-time anal explorer.

Tip for stimulating your man’s prostate gland:
First, cleanse his anal area, as well as your finger or the toy to be used. Ensure that he is relaxed prior to anal play. (Our experts recommend that you relax him by providing a full body massage, followed by manual stimulation of his penis.)

Once your man is relaxed, apply a generous amount of lubricant to the anal area. Reach down between his legs and insert either an index finger or the Male G-Spot Massager into his anus and press forward, in a firm motion. The prostate is located on the front part of the rectal wall.

Press gently.  If your lover enjoys the sensation, press a little more firmly. Your partner might find pleasure in a “shunting” sensation, experienced by smooth, rapid insertion and removal of the finger or toy.

If, at any point, your man experiences discomfort, ease off a bit. Should he experience pain or express displeasure, immediately stop.

It can take a few times to get used to the sensations associated with anal play. Always respect his boundaries.

We recommend you apply our new and exclusive He-Spot Gel, designed to intensify his pleasure by enhancing blood flow to the area.

3. Simultaneous orgasm never happens.
While it’s certainly not a guaranteed or particularly common occurrence, enjoying shared orgasms with your partner at the exact same time is possible to achieve. However, it can take some work to get it right…

After all, understanding our own orgasms can be a complex matter… Add the orgasms of a partner into the equation, and you’ve got one Rubik’s Cube of sexual confusion! For those who struggle to orgasm on a regular basis, orgasm (and sex in general) can be a stressful endeavor. And, for new couples, there is a learning curve associated with understanding one another’s wants and needs, and then building a fulfilling sexual relationship…

What we’re trying to get at is that you should not strive for simultaneous orgasm until you and your partner overcome your sexual quirks and any accompanied anxiety. That’s not to say that those who don’t orgasm on a regular basis shouldn’t pursue simultaneous orgasm. By all means, go ahead! But, if you’re stressed out about sex, don’t have a clear mindset, or not yet at a comfortable level with your partner, you probably won’t achieve any kind of orgasm at all.

Are you ready to add “simultaneous orgasm” to your life-list? Good for you! Just remember that it’s not the end-all, be-all of sexual pleasure. If you achieve one, fine.  If not, that’s okay, too – there are plenty of other sexual adventures to check off your list.

Tip for improving your odds of achieving simultaneous orgasm:
Make it an evening of mutual pleasure. The experience is about both of you.  Start out by showing one another how you like to be touched. You go first; your partner goes next.

Follow, with simultaneous foreplay. Stimulate your partner while he/she stimulates you at the same exact time.  Don’t think about your next move.  Just focus on the moment.  Enjoy every sensation.

Remember that it’s easy for men to reach climax before women, so be sure to have your male partner communicate to you if he’s getting close to orgasm. If he is, stop manually stimulating him for a while, and just let him focus on you.  As he’s stimulating you, let him know how it feels.  (This experience is still about both of you, even if only one of you is receiving sexual attention. Verbally communicate to your partner, how amazing he is.)

You may experience dual-orgasm during manual stimulation. Whether you do or don’t, we still recommend you move on to the next step: intercourse.

Before you slip your partner inside of you, check that you are both well lubricated. (We love the Passion Parties exclusive water-based Revelation™ Lubricant because it can be reactivated with just a few drops of water.)   Incorporate one of our sexual enhancement products, like We-Vibe II or Progressor.  We-Vibe II is the first-ever toy to be worn inside during intercourse, and stimulates both you and your man at the same time.  Progressor is a vibrating c-ring that helps him maintain an erection and delay orgasm, while delivering sweet vibrations to your clitoris. Just as we advised above regarding manual stimulation, have your male partner communicate with you if he’s close to reaching orgasm during intercourse.

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We Vibe 3

10 Jan


The most powerful way to go from orgasm to “ourgasm!”


We- Vibe 3 brings the good vibrations of the world’s #1 vibrator for couples to a whole new level of FUN! Below are detailed instructions to help you enjoy your we-vibe 3 with ease!


Clean your We-Vibe 3 with Clean and Simple Adult Toy Cleaner before and after use. Only use water-based lubricants like revelation or ultra glide.

Insert the tapered, slender end into the vagina about three inches up to the bend. The flexible “C” shaped We-Vibe 3 will easily open to an “L” shape when worn. The larger “Clitoral Pad” will nestle in between the labia and against the clitoris.

Charging instructions:

Charge for 24 hours before initial use by placing the product inside the charging station and connecting the AC adapter from the station to an electrical wall outlet. Ensure both ends of the AC adapter are pushed in all the way.  Yellow light will illuminate to signal charge. Conserve battery life by recharging regularly. Remote control does not need to be charged.

Manual Operation Instructions:

Firmly press raised button  on top of product to turn on. Press raised button on the top of the product to turn on, Press the raised button to switch between various functions. Press raised button for two seconds to turn off product. Remote control may be used to change functions or turn off product.

Remote Control Instructions:

Product must be manually turned on. Press thumb-shaped button on remote control to change functions. Press thumb-shaped button for two seconds to  turn off the product. After 45 minutes of non-use, controller automatically shuts down to conserve energy. Life span of controller is 5 years.

From orgasm to Ourgasm

21 Dec
How to encourage simultaneous climax

A lack of simultaneous orgasms in one’s sexual repertoire does not indicate that anything is wrong with the relationship or sex life. In fact, most couples do not climax at the same time and still continue to have a happy and satisfying romantic relationship.

However, for those couples who enjoy sexual exploration and finding new ways to enhance their relationships, experiencing a simultaneous orgasm, or orgasm, is a fantasy they long to make a reality. While the occurrence may not be common, it surely is not impossible.

1. First, talk to your partner about your desire to climax at the same time. But don’t do it in the heat of the moment. Choose a non-sexual, yet casual time, when you talk about your fantasy and have your lover’s undivided attention. Communicate your needs intimately and maybe even be a little graphic. Doing so will not only make our significant other feel closer to you, but more than likely your partner will get turned on listening to your fantasy.

2.  Don’t place any pressure on yourself or your partner. Controlling one’s orgasm is an art and a science, normally only conquered by skillful pornographic actors. You and Your mate should into be trying to achieve that level of skill, but rather just enjoying each other and the moment.

3. Practice. Really, the only way your and your lover will experience an ourgasm is through a lot of practice. A lot.

4. Pay Attention.What moves, emotions, facial expressions, sounds and positions cause you to climax? What causes your mate to climax? Take note of each other’s muscle contractions by pausing thrusting motions and lean each other’s bodies. When you figure out what works for you and what works for your partner, you two will be better able to guess when and how to simultaneously orgasm.

5. Play with Toys!These are special romance enhancers designed to encourage the ourgasm. From toys that you wear, to toys that he wears, to toys that can be used on you and your lover at the same time. Passion Parties caries a plethora of couples’ enhancers tht can be used with proper lubrication can help you achieve the ultimate orgasm.

Best couples Toys…

  • We Vibe II– Worn internally, the We vibe II features 2 motors that vibrate during lovemaking, with both partners feeling the sensation at the same time.
  • Progressor-  Featuring a C-ring that slips over an erection, Progressor also offers clitoral stimulation via an internal vibrating bullet. Ticking the clitoris during sex may increase your chances of ourgasm.

The Big O

1 Oct

The O is for National Orgasm Month! Many know October is for National Breast Cancer Awareness Month, many don’t know it is also National Orgasm month….which makes October even better! We have save the tatas, Halloween, hunting season, Fall, Columbus Day, and Orgasms! Woohoo!

“An orgasm a day keeps the doctor away!”- Mae West

October  celebrates National Orgasm Month. Orgasms are exhilarating, euphoric and unlike anything else on earth. The actual experience can vary from person to person. With patience, a little practice and an open mind, nearly everyone is capable of achieving orgasm. An orgasm is “the build up and release of sexual pressure giving you intense, full -body waves of pleasure and relaxation.”

Below are a few tips to help you along your journey to achieving more ORGASMS ! Good luck!

  • Practice breathing techniques. Train yourself to breath properly. Consistent breathing can improve oxygen in the blood stream and encourage stronger, more frequent orgasms.
  • Follow a Mediterranean-style diet. Studies show that a diet high in fruits, veggies, whole grains and fish and low in red meat, can have a positive effect on your sex life.
  • Explore your body. Learn how to please yourself. Get acquainted with your own anatomy. Try stimulating various areas around the genitals, including the clitoris, G-spot and vulva. Get more tips from Tickle Your Fancy.
  • Maintain a clear mindset, you might be physically in the room, but if you’re not mentally there, it’ll be extremely hard to reach orgasm. Leave your to-do list, worries, and any other unrelated matters outside the bedroom door. Be present in the moment. Perhaps, yoga, mediation or a long walk is in order.
  • Communicate, Let your love know what feels good. When they do something that you enjoy, encourage them to continue.
  • Fantasize, when it comes to achieving orgasm, imagination can be a powerful tool. Try slipping into a fantasy during lovemaking. The moment you find your close to climax, try tightening and relaxing your PC muscles to spark an orgasm.

Orgasms have been shown to curb appetite; improve brain function, immune and cardiovascular systems and promote healthy skin.


  • The average female orgasm can last from six to ten seconds. Some women even experience a 20-second orgasm.
  • The average woman needs about 20 minutes of arousal time before her clitoris is sensitive enough to respond to stimulation and begin building toward climax. (Apply a dab of Pure Satisfaction® Enhancement Gel to enhance sensitivity).
  • The most likely time for a woman to experience sexual pleasure is during her menstrual period. This is due to the increase in blood circulation around the groin area.
  • 1 in 3 women have difficulty achieving orgasm.

“How can I describe to you, a man, what it feels like to a woman? Think of a light switch with a rheostat control. As you begin to turn it on, the bulb begins to get bright, then brighter, and brighter and finally in a blinding flash is fully lit. It is so good.” – Marilyn Monroe


  • Orgasms can be felt in the labia, heart, skin, spine, or even as a rush through the entire body
  • Stress relief, calorie burning, improved sleep, and anti-aging are a few of the many benefits of orgasm
  • A pig’s orgasm last for about 30 minutes!

Ride Em’ Cowgirl!

26 Sep

If you have never been a girl to be bold enough or comfortable enough to really learn to enjoy being on top during sex, it is time to come out of your shell, and JUST DO IT! Not only will you rock his world, but you have complete control over your pleasure! More than 80% of women need clitoral stimulation and girl on top is one of the best positions for his to happen in.

Start with your hands and knees, and lower yourself onto his penis (he can insert with his hand to help you out). Begin moving up and down slowly, and place his hands on your hips- having him guide your motions can help you get used to this position. Once you start to feel more comfortable, experiment with the angle (leaning forward will stimulate your clit, while leaning back will hit your g-spot) as well as the speed. Mix up your movements a bit too: You can swivel your hips in a figure-eight motion or rock them back and forth. You don’t have to do all this in one sex session either- the more often you try girl-on-top, the more at ease you’ll feel trying new, pleasurable twists on the position. Such as turning the opposite way while on top, which is called Reverse Cowgirl to give him a nice view of…well you know…the other side of you! 🙂

You also can apply more or less pressure according to what you like and want. If you want more pressure if he holds your hips or shoulders in the process pulling you close to him will apply more pressure. You can also learn more girl on top positions in books such as the Complete Guide to Sexual Positions or Ride Em’ Cowgirl! Some great toys that can enhance especially girl on top position are the We-Vibe and Progressor C-Ring! If you feeling super adventurous, try it in a chair, on a bench, or in the back seat of a truck or car. 🙂

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